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i was recently discouraged by a friend to not attend a specific yoga workshop on the premise that "you don't even want to spend money on coming to a class- why spend money on a workshop"?
her verbiage was interesting. you don't "want" to spend money on a class. hmmm. not anymore than i'd "want" to spend money on a new apartment or on paying off my credit card.
wanting and not having are entirely different things and it's very intriguing when a friend becomes the unnecessary divider in the wanting and the not having.
a friend usually encourages one's twenty-something impulsive decisions, like buying the proenza bag because it's your birthday and taking a flight to LA to see a last minute show, justifying the cost with the notions that, "you're only 21 once" and "money doesn't matter when you die", which, in my book, all hold some valid truth.
but when your friend disparages you from spending $60 on a workshop in her yoga studio with her exalted, instagram-viral yogi, then, you have to wonder. why are you pushing me away from sharing all the goodness and juiciness and wholeness that yoga can be, together?
after explaining and, ahem, defending my personal finances (which, be noted, you should never have to do to anyone who is not paying your bills), she then explained that this is an advanced class. she barely made it through last time, and i should have a lot of practice in before hand- so i can get through the workshop.
all valid and respected points. entirely.
but why the sudden switch in track of thought and reason? why wasn't that her first reaction?
and i may seem to be defending my own yoga experience, but i practice daily, studio or not. i meditate daily, i am mindful daily, with intent. it's disrespectful and lacking in love when your friend doesn't acknowledge that wholesome truth, nor show interest in your becoming and your journey in a spiritual realm, new territory for you. it's hurtful and would never happen in reverse.
when posts of quotes on love and forgiveness and truths present themselves on my instagram feed i have to step back and breathe in a removed, yet mindful way, for those quotes mean nothing in comparison to one's daily intent and one's sought out love and care for others. it shows different on a page, on a screen, than it does in the heart.
her verbiage was interesting. you don't "want" to spend money on a class. hmmm. not anymore than i'd "want" to spend money on a new apartment or on paying off my credit card.
wanting and not having are entirely different things and it's very intriguing when a friend becomes the unnecessary divider in the wanting and the not having.
a friend usually encourages one's twenty-something impulsive decisions, like buying the proenza bag because it's your birthday and taking a flight to LA to see a last minute show, justifying the cost with the notions that, "you're only 21 once" and "money doesn't matter when you die", which, in my book, all hold some valid truth.
but when your friend disparages you from spending $60 on a workshop in her yoga studio with her exalted, instagram-viral yogi, then, you have to wonder. why are you pushing me away from sharing all the goodness and juiciness and wholeness that yoga can be, together?
after explaining and, ahem, defending my personal finances (which, be noted, you should never have to do to anyone who is not paying your bills), she then explained that this is an advanced class. she barely made it through last time, and i should have a lot of practice in before hand- so i can get through the workshop.
all valid and respected points. entirely.
but why the sudden switch in track of thought and reason? why wasn't that her first reaction?
and i may seem to be defending my own yoga experience, but i practice daily, studio or not. i meditate daily, i am mindful daily, with intent. it's disrespectful and lacking in love when your friend doesn't acknowledge that wholesome truth, nor show interest in your becoming and your journey in a spiritual realm, new territory for you. it's hurtful and would never happen in reverse.
when posts of quotes on love and forgiveness and truths present themselves on my instagram feed i have to step back and breathe in a removed, yet mindful way, for those quotes mean nothing in comparison to one's daily intent and one's sought out love and care for others. it shows different on a page, on a screen, than it does in the heart.
"This is the force of Friendship.
What draws friends together does not conform to Laws of Nature.
Form doesn’t know about spiritual closeness." -Rumi
"Stay together, friends.
Don’t scatter and sleep.
Our friendship is made
of being awake.
The waterwheel accepts water
and turns and gives it away,
weeping.
That way it stays in the garden,
whereas another roundness rolls
through a dry riverbed looking
for what it thinks it wants.
Stay here, quivering with each moment
like a drop of mercury."- Rumi
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